He is a bit rough in the bedroom

I love making love with my husband but he’s not very good at picking up on what I like and don’t like in bed.
He’s great at oral love making but he only does it for about two minutes and then moves on to intercourse.
I moan a lot during oral sex and try to sort of hold his head there for longer with my hands but he doesn’t seem to pick up on the hint at all.
He’s also too rough when he touches me. I've tried pushing his hands away to let him know this but he doesn’t pay any attention to that either.
I’m too shy to come right out and say what I want and don’t want but I’m starting to feel resentful about him missing all the signals I'm sending him. What should I do?

There are loads of men who don’t listen when their partners tell them they hate being touched roughly in some particular places of their anatomy— an indicator why some of these relationships fail.
Such men are too self-absorbed to pay attention to anyone’s needs but their own. But before you go screaming at him you’ve got to make sure you've been as clear as you think you can be.
You said you don’t want to voice your needs, but I don’t think you have a choice here. It’s easy to do.
The next time he’s giving you oral sex simply say, “Honey, that feels fantastic! Can you do it for longer this time?” If he’s touching you too roughly, say, “Could you be a bit gentler? I love you when you touch me really tenderly.”
None of these comments are critical, they’re encouraging so he’s unlikely to take offence.