The international motivational speaker and philanthropist gives tips to a successful marriage and speaks of her forthcoming Women on the Winning Edge conference.
My husband and I would have been married for 32 years by September 8 this year. In these 32 years, we’ve both prayed together every day! When we are not together we pray on the phone.
Also, we agreed on transparency and honesty.
We tell ourselves absolute truth; what nobody on earth can tell us. We confront our selves. And our bedroom has remained our ‘court room’ for years. Also, we are committed to making the marriage work. Divorce is not an option for us. That has been our cliché from the beginning.
So, the major and greatest force in our marriage is God. And that’s not to sound religious. It is what God keeps that is kept.
Then, my husband is my only and best friend while I am his. I always encourage singles to marry their friends.
Many working women complain family commitments slow them down in their career pursuits. What was your experience like and how did you cope?
God has blessed me with one of the most responsible family men on earth. When our marriage was young and we were raising our kids, my husband was committedly involved. We raised the kids together and he also helped with school runs and works.
He put the children and me before church work and ministry. This disposition simplified my life extensively.
There were times when my husband will tell me to rest while he rocked the baby to sleep.
For women who have issues with their husbands, what is the best way to get results?
The greatest need of a man is not sex; he can get that from a prostitute if he’s not born again, and of course, contract veneral diseases! It’s not food; he can get that from any good restaurant. A man’s greatest need is respect, particularly public respect from his wife.
Some women disrespect their husbands.
It’s a man you treat like a king that will treat you like a queen.
There’s no honour I will give to any human if I have not given it to my husband. After the Lord Jesus Christ, Felix Remi Adejumo is the only King in my Kingdom and the only Emperor in my Empire!
What is your concept of total submission as it relates to the modern woman?
Biblically speaking, submission is neither subjugation nor slavery. Only insecure men oppress their wives! When you see a man that does not allow his wife to shine or give expression to God’s grace on her life, he is a coward!
He may look bold and loud but he’s definitely struggling with serious complex issues!
Ephesians 5:21 says: “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. People quote from verse 22 but the instruction actually starts from verse 21!
In my opinion, submission is “strength put under control.”
God expects the woman to equally prosper and be blessed. Genesis 1:26-28 says God blessed them not him only! But once you are in marriage, you don’t flaunt your blessings in such a way that you disrespect your spouse.
Anything that has more than one head is a monster. As a woman, you allow your husband to be the leader and you prayerfully and graciously assist him.
Do you believe in the concept of full-housewife?
Yes and no. Yes because there may be a season when a woman needs to be a full-time house wife for the sake of her children. But this should not be the norm. Full-time house wife is “Full-time Suffering Plc.”(Laughs)
What is the vision behind your forthcoming Women on the Winning Edge Conference?
Out of a constant thirst for God and his mandate on the earth, the vision of Women on the Winning Edge Conference was born.
This is a godly calling to all women to pump self-confidence into them; to raise godly women who will build good homes, raise godly children, be wealthy and stand toe to toe with other women of various cadres without denying the faith.
It’s an international conference, aimed at ministering to women of all ages and strata with the hope of prayerfully and biblically discussing key issues as they affect the woman, her purpose, her future and her dignity.
It’s also our chance to lead the unsaved to the Lord and tackle issues like relationship with God, career, singlehood, marriage, leadership, abuse, divorce, widowhood, infidelity, violence, parenting and more.
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