Marriage Wisdom Nuggets: Being a husband

(My younger sister Whatsapped me this and I think it is worth sharing)

1    Husband is not just a title. Husband is not just the ability to make a wife pregnant. Husband means great responsibility. Husband means houseband; the band that binds the house together. A godly husband is a Priest, a Provider and a Protector. As a Priest a husbands subjects himself to Christ and opens the Word and leads his family to Christ through daily family worship at the family altar.

As a Provider the husband works hard to ensures that the family is well fed, nourished and decently dressed. As a Protector the husband shelters his family from physical harm, emotional and
spiritual attacks. A godly husband; the man of the house; will stand up for his marriage and defend his wife and children and fight for his family’s salvation.


2      Many marriages suffer because spouses are holding on to past mistakes, past failures, past disappointments, past heartbreaks, past rejections & past relationships. You cannot revisit the past & undo the hurtful wrong that happened. You can not unwind the hands of time. You cannot erase the scars. But you can choose to forgive, trust God & move on. No marriage can ever see a better
future without letting go of the past.

Every marriage has some degree of regrettable past. But the successfully married practice daily forgiveness on the altar of prayer. Don’t build a monument of your spouse’s past sin in your heart & when you’re wrong don’t be too proud to apologize. Give your marriage a new breath of life.

Today; let-go & forgive your spouse for everything in the past. “Be kind to one another tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32. Yes, You can do it.


3       When a marriage falls apart we wonder, “What just happened?” We are shocked because usually marriages that fail appear very strong from a distance. But the reality is that a lot has been happening behind the scenes over a long period of time. Marriage doesn’t just fall apart suddenly. Marriage falls apart in installments, little by little, a crack here and a crack there, and a leak here and a leak there.
Some marriages begin to fall apart before the couple says, “I do.” Usually it’s not the big things that cause divorce. It’s the small things that are neglected over a period of time. Remember, a stitch in time saves nine. Don’t neglect the small things in marriage. Take care of the small problems and the big ones will take care of themselves. “Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grape vines are blossoming!” (Songs of Solomon 2:15)


4        When husband and wife are not communicating, it gives the devil uncontested time to talk to each spouse separately, sowing seeds of suspicion, doubt and lies. The silent treatment is the loudest invitation of trouble in your marriage. Regardless of how bad things get between you and your spouse, keep talking.