My daughter wants to leave her husband

My daughter has been married for 14 years and has two small children. She runs her own business which she admitted could be stressful.
She says there is no longer any spark in her marriage and she wants a divorce while she’s young enough to try another relationship. Her husband is generous and respectful. As hard-working as he is, he spends most of his free time with their children.
My husband and I understand it’s her life to live, but we want to stop her from breaking up her family. How can we convince her that she’s making a huge mistake?
There isn’t any other man involved as far as we know.


You say that you understand it’s your daughter’s life to live, but it’s obvious you don’t understand that at all. 
You can encourage your daughter to be thoughtful; you can suggest that she avoid making life-changing choices too hastily; you can propose that she gets professional help. But you are wrong to decree that divorce would be a ‘huge mistake,’ and you are wrong to influence her to remain in a marriage she no longer finds fulfilling. 
You praise your son-in-law, but there are things going on behind closed doors that you don’t understand, nor should you because they’re not your business. 
I suspect there’s a part of you that wants your daughter to stay in this marriage for your own peace of mind and convenience, not hers. 
You’re obviously concerned about your daughter and want the best for her. Let her know how you feel and encourage her to consult with a psychologist or other counsellor during this difficult time, then butt out. 
If she decides the marriage is over, your job will be to offer support, help her to go through the trauma of divorce, and bring stability to her life and the lives of your grandchildren.
(Bunmi Sofola)